And when your own trauma or anxiety is being triggered by your child it can feel impossible! Whether you're dealing with tantrums, overwhelming anxiety, or the lingering effects of trauma — in yourself or your child — you're not alone, and help is available!
Trauma has a way of hijacking connection. It can make joyful, secure parenting feel out of reach. If you grew up with trauma, neglect, loss, or emotional disconnection, parenting can feel you aren't just reinventing the wheel; you're building it from the ground up with no blueprint!
At Safe Haven Psychology Center in Orange County, CA, we help parents heal from childhood trauma so they can raise emotionally secure, resilient kids. We offer specialized therapy for parents who are:
Navigating trauma recovery while parenting
Struggling with parent-child attachment or challenging behaviors
Parenting through adoption, foster care, or early childhood adversity
Trying to break generational cycles of trauma, abuse, and neglect
I'm Dr. Rachael Berg-Martinez, a licensed clinical psychologist with advanced training in trauma, EMDR, attachment-based therapy, and parent-child treatment. I support parents who are carrying the weight of their own childhood pain while trying to show up differently for their kids. Many of the families I work with include children or parents with trauma histories - and parents who are deeply committed to doing things differently. My approach blends psychodynamic depth with practical tools, offering a compassionate, expert space where healing becomes possible.
At the heart of my work is this truth:
Safety unlocks the path to healing.
If you’re a parent who wants to stop repeating the past and start building something new, I’m here to help. Together, we’ll work to regulate your nervous system, strengthen your connection with your child, and help you feel more confident in your parenting.
Because when a parent heals, the next generation doesn't have to carry the same pain.
“Parents and children help each other to grow. In raising their children, parents are also raising themselves. Child rearing gives parents the chance to redo their own childhood and to improve on it.” — Alicia Lieberman
"We repeat what we don’t repair." — Gabor Maté
We offer support to parents who are navigating difficult behaviors in their children, parent-child attachment and relationship issues, navigating life after trauma, or challenges related to foster care and adoption. Let us help you build stronger, healthier relationships with your children.
Maybe you were traumatized as a child and don't want to pass this on to your own child, or your child has experienced trauma. Perhaps you've thought, "I don't want to do to them what was done to me!" We can help you heal not only for you, but also for the children you love, and for the next generation!
While trauma often begins in relationships, it can also stem from systemic injustice and discrimination. Parents from marginalized communities—whether due to race, ethnicity, sexuality, gender, ability, religion, or culture—often carry the dual burden of personal trauma and chronic stress from ongoing bias and exclusion.
For Black, Biracial, Indigenous, and other parents of color, this includes the weight of historical and ancestral trauma—generations of loss, violence, and systemic oppression. Parenting under these conditions creates a heightened, often invisible, strain on emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.
At Safe Haven Psychology Center, we honor these realities and provide a space to explore, process, and heal—rooted in justice, cultural awareness, and deep respect for your lived experience.
Parenting after the loss or separation from a biological parent comes with unique challenges. At Safe Haven Psychology Center, we understand the complex emotional needs of adoptive and foster families. With specialized training from UCLA TIES for Families, we offer adoption-sensitive care that supports attachment, healing, and connection.
Whether you're navigating behavioral struggles, grief, disrupted placements, or the emotional impact of the foster/adoption process, we're here to help your family grow stronger—together.
Curious about the 7 (or 8) core issues in adoption? Read more on our blog.
Whether your trauma was interpersonal, systemic, or both, you deserve support in your efforts to stop the transmission of trauma to the next generation.
You've made it past infancy. Phew! Now comes the toddler and school years with new challenges. Tantrums. Social Anxiety. Defiance. Outbursts. Tears. Dysregulation galore. And not just for your child! You might find yourself struggling to find calm in the chaos or knowing how to support an anxious child. You don't need to face this alone. The expert help of a psychologist can help you find your confidence, joy, and calm so that your child can too! We specialize in working with parents, kids, and families dealing with:
Trauma
Anxiety including school refusal
Tantrums, meltdowns, angry outbursts, and aggression
SPACE (Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions) is a parent-based treatment designed to help children and teens with anxiety, OCD, and related challenges. Rather than focusing on changing the child’s behavior directly, SPACE teaches parents how to respond in a supportive way while gradually reducing accommodations—things they do to help their child avoid anxiety. By shifting their own behaviors, parents can help their child build resilience, confidence, and independence, even without the child participating in therapy directly.
Combining a reflective-functioning enhancement approach with Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) is one way we work with parents and children. PCIT is an evidence-based parent coaching model of therapy for young kids (ages 18 months to 8 years old) who struggle with behaviors like tantrums, angry outbursts, and difficulty listening and getting along with others.